If you’ve just met a perfect partner and don’t want to ruin a perfect
start, here are all the pointers you need to take it from a new
relationship to a good relationship.
#1 Meet often, but not too often
When you’re in young love, you’d want to spend every waking minute
with your boyfriend/girlfriend It’s understandable, you’re obviously excited. But
could you be pushing it too far?
By meeting too often, you’re suddenly changing the lives of two
individuals who have fallen in love. It may feel great for the first
week or so, but eventually your other commitments may pile up and one of
you may end up getting annoyed with the other for spending too much time.
Go out on dates once or twice a week, and it’ll keep the love and
excitement on a high for a long time. But if you’re both madly in love
and can’t keep your hands off each other, then you’re excused to meet
each other more often, but with caution.
#2 Don’t get clingy
Just because you’re dating doesn’t mean you own each other. Shocking,
yes, but it’s true. If you want to know how to have a good relationship
from the beginning, learn to give each other space. Especially in a new
relationship, you’re only dating each and don’t really need to know
every little piece of information about each other. Right now, you’re
only a small part of each other’s lives, so don’t give yourself more
importance than you deserve.
#3 Don’t go crazy with your gifts
Your new gf/bf may be running in your mind all day, but that doesn’t
mean you should go overboard and buy something for your love every time
you see something nice while shopping.
Save the spending sprees for later when the relationship has grown
over a solid foundation. If you do want to express your love with gifts,
then pick something small, personal and inexpensive at first. Save the
extravagant gifts when you know your new mate’s the one for you.
#4 Don’t get possessive
Possessiveness is never a good trait in a relationship.
Possessiveness is a sign of insecurity and jealousy, and these are
usually big red flags in any relationship, new or old.
Remember that you’re still in a new relationship and can’t order or
even request your mate to avoid people or avoid going out by themselves.
Even if you do feel jealous about your lover’s partying habits or the
amount of time they spend with a group of friends, learn to suck it up
and hold it in. Signs of jealousy and insecurity right at the beginning
can end the relationship even before you know it.
#5 Accept each other’s habits
When you fall in love with someone new, you fall in love with who they are not the person you wish they were. Instead
of trying to change them to fit your requirements, learn to adjust to
their habits. By restricting a lover or trying to change someone at the
very beginning, you risk the chance of losing them forever.
Whether you’re in love or otherwise, you can’t really change
someone’s personality. If you find your new lover incompatible, end the
relationship instead of suffering a nervous breakdown due to
frustrations or insecurities.
#6 You don’t have to say I-Love-You
Just because you’re in a relationship with your new gf/bf, it doesn’t
mean you have to start saying those “three magical words” to each other
as soon as you decide to go out with each other. It’s only
going to lead to awkwardness in the air because it’s all happening so
fast. Take it slow and wait a while, maybe a month or so before you say
it out loud. Or when you feel it is the right time to.
#7 Talk to each other
Communication creates a good relationship.
Try to sneak in a long conversation every now and then and learn
about each other, likes, dislikes, interests and all. By doing this,
it’ll help you figure the romantic compatibility and also help bring
both of you closer.
So there you go, whether you listen to my advice or not it doesn't matter at least it's out there :).
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