What to do about jealousy

1. Identify the situation that's triggering your feeling's of jealousy. You may feel jealous when
          The guy or girl you like is hanging out with other people, leaving you feeling neglected.
            Your best friend seems to prefer spending time with other people.
            One of your parents starts spending time with a new partner.
          .Someone else gets the recognition that you deserve at work or gets credit for something that you did in a school club.

2. Build your self confidence. Jealousy sometimes happens when you are feeling insecure about yourself.  The best way to build your self-esteem is to act the way that a confident person would act. Make decisions as though you have all of the confidence in the world. Eventually, your feelings will catch up with your actions.

3. Avoid comparing yourself with other people. Instead of focusing on your shortcomings, think about the positive qualities, skills and character traits that you bring to the table. It all goes back to becoming more confident. You have so many great qualities and physical attributes that no one can take away from you.


4. Have reasonable expectations about how much time a person can devote with you. Look at yourself. What's making you so needy that you can't be happy unless this other person is around? Branch out and spend more time with other people, or find an activity that makes you happy. Sometimes, all you need to do is to take better care of yourself instead of focusing all of your energy on someone else.

5. Do the opposite of what the jealous person would do.  When you feel jealousy taking over, don't react in a destructive way by making accusations, giving someone the silent treatment or dropping little sarcastic hints. Instead, try to do what a trusting person would do in your place. If a friend is going to spend time with someone else, for example, recommend a good movie or restaurant. If the guy or girl you like is talking to someone else, join the conversation in a friendly way.When someone else gets the job that you want, be nice instead of being sneaky or trying to undermine the other person. Instead, congratulate the person and offer to help them be successful.

6. Recognize the paranoia that is part of jealousy. Jealousy causes you to react to a fantasy scenario that's all in your mind. In reality, the bad things that you're imagining may never happen at all. And if they do, you're strong enough to get through them. You have other people that you can count on in your life, and you'll move on to become a better person.
         Your boyfriend or girlfriend may call an ex to express condolences something awful happens, like the person's mother dies. Don't go crazy about it. First of all, the person that you love isn't necessarily hung up on an ex. Second of all, your boyfriend or girlfriend is being nice and considerate, and that's 1 of the reasons that you love him or her so much.

7. Be trusting.This is a lot easier said than done. If you get jealous easily, you've probably had your trust broken in the past. You have to stop thinking about the past and put yourself in the present. Look at the person who's making you jealous. Has this person ever given you a reason not to trust him or her?

8. Develop an optimistic view of people. Jealousy is a fear-based behavior. You're spending a lot of time worrying about something bad that hasn't happened yet, and might not happen at all. Unfortunately, you're creating a situation where bad things could happen because of all of your negative feelings. If you believe in someone, believe in them completely. Good people deserve the benefit of the doubt.